1. Calmly think about the root of the problem
Before dealing with the quarrel, we need to calm down and think about the root of the problem. Quarrels are often caused by two parties having different views or expectations on an issue. Therefore, we should first reflect on our own positions and needs and try to understand the other party's perspective.
2. Communicate openly and express your feelings
Once we calm down, we can communicate honestly with each other , express your feelings. This includes describing why you feel angry or sad and what you think about the issues involved in the argument. Through effective communication, we can better understand each other and find solutions to problems.
3. Find common ground and room for compromise
After we have identified the root of the problem and expressed our feelings, the next step is to find common ground and room for compromise. While we may have different opinions, there may be some common ground or compromise that meets the needs of both parties. By finding common ground and compromising, we can achieve win-win results.
4. Respect the other person’s opinions and feelings
When dealing with a quarrel, it is very important to respect the other person’s opinions and feelings. We should avoid arguing, blaming, or belittling each other, and instead treat each other with respect and understanding. Doing so will not only help relieve tension, but will also lead to a healthier and stronger relationship.
5. Seek help from a third party
If we are unable to resolve the dispute ourselves, we may consider seeking help from a third party. This could be a friend, family member or professional counselor. Third parties can provide objective opinions and suggestions and help us find solutions to problems. At the same time, a third party can also play a mediating role so that both parties can obtain satisfactory results.
6. Learn to grow from quarrels
Finally, we should learn to grow from quarrels. Fighting is an inevitable part of relationships, but it’s also an opportunity for us to grow and improve. By quarreling, we can better understand ourselves and each other, learn to deal with conflicts, and improve our communication and problem-solving abilities.
To sum up, when my girlfriend and I have a small quarrel, we should calmly think about the root of the problem, communicate frankly and express our feelings, find common ground and room for compromise, and respect each other's opinions and feelings. Seek help from a third party and learn to grow from the fight. Through these methods, we can better handle arguments and build healthy, strong relationships.
