In a relationship, if two people just like each other, but are not so suitable, it will be very tiring to get along with each other. If they are suitable but don't like each other, it will be difficult for the two people to get together. In that relationship, if they like each other, Which is more important, or suitability?
A while ago, a college classmate broke up with his girlfriend and came to me to complain. He couldn’t understand why he couldn’t get over it after they had been together for so long. We are about to break up suddenly?
She always said that I am not motivated. This breakup was also because I refused an opportunity to meet a client. This opportunity is actually not that important to me.
Originally, I was not responsible for that project. My colleague had something to do and asked for leave to go home, so he came to see me.
At that time, I still had a project in hand. I had been working overtime for three consecutive months at that time. I finally finished my project that day and just wanted to go home and take a rest, so I rejected the boss.
This is not a big deal. The boss himself is also aware of my situation, and he must have asked me more than just one person. After I handed over the job, when I left, the boss also asked me to take a rest.
One: Love requires emotional injection
But after I told my girlfriend about this, she started He said that I was not motivated and could not seize such a good opportunity.
But during that time, I had been working very intensively, and my boss saw it. I really wasn’t unmotivated. I am really too tired, I have worked very hard, why can’t she see it. You have to keep an eye on this time.
What's more, I think our current life is already very good. Although I am not a rich man, I can at least ensure our quality of life and my family is healthy and happy.
Now I am very content with this, but she always feels that it is not enough. She tries her best not to say anything, but always forces me to work harder, and keeps saying that I am short-sighted.
Two: Compromise is an opportunity for each other to relax
The night I rejected the client, we had a big fight After a fight, she broke up with me, but I didn't keep her.
Because I was really tired, I had to keep a tightrope during the three years I was with her, for fear that she would say I didn’t work hard or make progress.
In fact, my classmate’s current job is not bad, and I have worked hard enough, even to the point of physical exhaustion.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to take a break.
As for girls, they hope that life can get better. While they work hard, they also hope that their boyfriends will be better. This seems to be no problem, but the problem is that neither of them wants to compromise for the other.
Three: Mutual understanding can only last forever
Boys are tired and want to take a rest before leaving, but girls think that the scenery in the distance is more charming and don’t want to stop for a moment. , one wants to stop, one wants to leave, one doesn’t chase, and the other doesn’t wait, it’s not anyone’s problem, it’s just that it’s not suitable.
In fact, many times, whether you like it or not, and whether it is suitable or not are two different things. , Liking will bring you together, but suitability will determine how far you can go together.
No matter how passionate the love is, there will be a day when the passion fades, and no matter how romantic the plot is, it will eventually return to daily necessities. In the atmosphere of fireworks, when dullness comes and the novelty slowly disappears.
At this time, those who can still go on for a long time must have similarities and can understand each other. < /p>
Four: Seize the opportunity if your heart is not in a hurry
Just liking it is not appropriate, maybe once the love period is over, you Just part ways, whether you like it or not, maybe you will become friends, partners, and best friends.
But there will always be a little bit of excitement, so liking is as important as being suitable.
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It’s just that liking is a feeling and it’s about fate, but suitability can be cultivated slowly through getting along with each other. You are willing to accommodate him and live a contented life with him, and he is also willing to work hard for you. Strive to improve the quality of your life and give you the life you want. Only such two people can truly go on for a long time.
I hope you can be more cautious in love at any time. Being with someone you like and is suitable for you is responsible for the rest of your life and your own happiness.
