It is inevitable that there will be quarrels and conflicts between male and female friends, and it is also common to get hurt in these quarrels. How to deal with hurt feelings and how to repair the relationship are issues that every couple needs to face and solve.
1. Accept your emotions
When we are hurt, the first thing we need to do is accept our emotions. Don't try to hide or suppress your feelings as this will only make the problem worse. Find a quiet place, allow yourself to experience this emotion, and think about what caused it.
2. Communication
Once you have calmed down, you can communicate with the other person. Tell him/her that you are hurt and explain why you feel hurt. But be careful not to blame the other person when expressing your feelings, but use "I" expressions, such as: "I feel hurt because I feel that my opinion is not respected." This can avoid further escalation of the argument.
3. Listen to the other person
After expressing your own feelings, you should also listen to the other person’s opinions and feelings. Give the other person enough space to express themselves without interrupting or interrupting him/her. Try to understand the other person's position and try to see things from the other person's perspective. This can enhance mutual understanding and communication.
4. Find a Compromise
After you have both expressed your feelings, it is important to find a compromising solution. Both sides need to make some concessions to reach a balance point. It may take some time and effort, but only through compromise can the relationship be repaired.
5. Learn to forgive
Forgiveness is the key to rebuilding trust and repairing damage. While forgiveness does not mean forgetting or accepting wrongdoing, it does mean that you are willing to let go of past hurt and give the other person a second chance. Learning to forgive will not only help you start over, but also make you stronger through future difficulties.
6. Seek outside help
If you are unable to solve the problem on your own, consider seeking outside help. You can find a professional psychological counselor or couple relationship counselor to help you resolve your difficulties. They will provide neutral opinions and suggestions to help you understand each other better and find solutions to problems.
It is common for male and female friends to quarrel and get hurt, but as long as we can handle these injuries correctly, we can promote the growth and development of each other. By accepting our emotions, communicating, listening to each other, seeking compromise, learning to forgive, and seeking outside help, we can repair hurt feelings and build a healthier and stronger relationship.
