The reason why a pair of strangers can develop into lovers is mainly because both parties have attractions for each other. Therefore, if you want to make a relationship last longer, you need to maintain this attraction. So what exactly can you do to stay attractive?
1. Can make the other person feel comfortable
I was drinking coffee in a cafe before and met a man A girl was on a first date and she was quite polite. Suddenly she farted. Her expression was a little unnatural and she felt a little embarrassed. The boy thought he was being humorous and said: Hahaha, you farted so much that it stunk you to death. Me? After saying this, the two of them were silent for a long time. This is what discomfort feels like.
Comfort means making people feel comfortable, natural and relaxed. It is like an introvert who comes into your circle. He is not good at talking and is not familiar with these people. You can chat a little. You can bring up his/her topic to prevent him/her from feeling awkward in an unfamiliar environment. This is also a sense of comfort.
2. Effective high value
What is effective high value? There are many high values. Value, money, and technology are all high values ??of a person, but these may not necessarily attract someone. Just like if you are in love with beautiful women, you will not be attracted by an ordinary-looking voice actor at first sight; if you are in love with plump girls, you will not be attracted by a flat-chested beauty at first sight.
If you are rich, but a girl likes handsome guys and doesn’t care about money, then the fact that you are rich is of invalid high value to the girl. Only when your high value can attract a certain kind of girl, that is the effective high value for this kind of girl. So why do brothers sometimes show their high value, but girls are still unmoved? This is the reason.
What characteristics will make girls want to stay away from you and avoid you?
Reduced self-worth
Reduced self-worth is not just about expressing love and asking for help; There is a way of life and attitude towards life that you have shown. For example, the brother I mentioned above has a circle of friends that is all about alcohol. Looking at it, it is full of sadness, as if his life is filled with alcohol. Sad, as if the whole world had betrayed him. This gives people the feeling that he is always hurt and has no charm, and this sense of value is very low.
Of course, there is also his worry about gain and loss in front of girls. Let us recall, what kind of person would always worry about not being liked? Even he himself thinks that he is not worthy of being liked, and he People who feel that they have no value have a low sense of self-worth.
High-quality love rivals appear
This is why sometimes girls become indifferent to you while we are chatting. Originally, they wanted to get to know you better, but then they just ignored you because someone better came along.
Quality is judged in all aspects, such as social value, career ability, family background and appearance. We make a comparison from the perspective of girls: A is a high-quality man with high EQ, B is a high-quality man with low EQ. C is a low-quality man with high emotional intelligence, and D is a low-quality man with low emotional intelligence. Then the probability of being chosen by a woman is definitely A>C, B>D.
If you are currently a C and an A appears next to a girl, then it is normal for you to be left out and abandoned.
Whether the above is positive or negative, it may exist in you, and no one is perfect. But when there are more negative things than positive things, girls will want to escape. If you want to maintain a good relationship or make a girl like you, you must try your best to avoid negative things and improve the positive things. Only then can you become a type A man with continuous attraction.
