When your girlfriend says hurtful things during an argument, handling the situation requires calmness and communication. Here are some suggestions:
1. Stay calm: Try not to react immediately, take a deep breath, and stay calm. Angry responses often escalate arguments.
2. Express feelings: Use "I" statements to express your feelings instead of blaming the other person. For example: "I felt hurt when you said those words."
3. Seek Understanding: Try to understand why she said the hurtful things. Ask her if there is any particular reason she feels frustrated or angry.
4. Set boundaries: Make it clear that certain words are unacceptable and that hurtful words can harm your relationship.
5. Take a short break: If the emotions are too intense, it is recommended that both parties calm down for a while before continuing to discuss the issue.
6. Find a solution: When both parties have calmed down, work together to find a solution to the problem to avoid similar quarrels in the future.
7. Consult a professional: If this kind of hurtful language is the norm, you may need to seek help from couples counseling or psychological counseling.
8. Self-reflection: Check whether your behavior may have caused her angry reaction and whether there are areas that need improvement.
9. Strengthen positive communication: Practice more positive communication methods in daily life, such as praise, gratitude, listening and empathy, so that it is easier to communicate in a constructive way during conflicts.
10. Consider the future of the relationship: If the hurtful words persist and the other person is unwilling to change, you may want to consider whether the relationship is good for you.
In short, every couple communicates and handles conflict differently, and finding a method that works for you is key.
