Question: When I checked my girlfriend’s phone recently, I found that she was chatting with some strange boys on a certain chat software, and some of them were very explicit. They called her baby, honey. I was very angry when I saw it and asked her why she was chatting online? She said: "You said it was just nonsense, so it was just nonsense, and people didn't take it seriously. It was just for fun." Is this considered spiritual betrayal? To be honest, I feel very uncomfortable. What should I do?
What should you do if your girlfriend is chatting ambiguously with others?
Answer:
Even on the Internet, if someone calls your girlfriend baby, honey, she still doesn’t Instead of retorting, he chatted happily with others. To be honest, this kind of behavior is actually considered spiritual betrayal. If you don’t want your girlfriend to betray her mentally and one day become mentally and physically together, you need to do this:
First Steps to guide your girlfriend to open up her heart
After you know that your girlfriend is chatting ambiguously with others, first of all, don’t interrogate and reprimand your girlfriend like a prisoner, because this will create a rebellious mentality in her and make her even more unscrupulous. . You can say to her like this: "Are you busy at work lately? Is there too much pressure? If you are dissatisfied with anything, you can tell me. After all, we are the closest people. I don't want you to use other methods. Seek stimulation and vent, if you do this, I will be very sad." Guide her to open up, express her inner thoughts, and sincerely care about her and show her willingness to accompany her to solve the problem.
The second step, pay more attention to your girlfriend in daily life
Start paying attention to your girlfriend in daily life, try to know more about your girlfriend, see what kind of information she likes recently, and like to chase her. What kind of drama should I use to let myself know more about my girlfriend? At the same time, I can find more topics that resonate with my girlfriend and do more things on the same channel as her. In this way, when you and your husband are chatting, your words will attract your girlfriend's attention and curiosity, and your relationship will get better and better. It will not allow others to take advantage of the situation just because both parties have nothing to say.
The third step is to have a bottom line of principles in the relationship
Always keep your own bottom line of principles. When it comes to betrayal, your attitude must be tough. If you find out about your girlfriend's ambiguous chatting with others and still turn a blind eye, she will think you are easy to bully. If you don't keep testing your bottom line, one day it will break through your bottom line and hurt the relationship between you. If a woman is ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex in an emotional relationship, it means that her sense of morality and boundaries are gradually weakening. At this time, as her girlfriend, you have to stand up and tell her what she can't do. If she does, you won't accept it. And once she breaks your bottom line, it's your test to break up.of.
Finally, on the surface, it seems that your girlfriend is just chatting with others, but you can never predict what the subsequent development will be, so you should stop it in time when it is time to stop it.
