Question:
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for three years. We are both still in graduate school and our relationship has always been relatively stable. Recently, my grandma is in poor health and wants to see my girlfriend. But after my girlfriend told her parents, she firmly disagreed with her going to my house to meet her parents. Her parents said that we were both still in graduate school and wanted us to discuss meeting our parents and getting married after we graduated and worked. And my girlfriend also said that although her parents don't interfere much in our relationship, they are not very satisfied with me. I want to ask what should I do in this situation?
What should parents do if their girlfriend’s parents strongly disagree?
Answer:
In fact, the key to your question is "Although her parents don't interfere much in our relationship, they are not too satisfied with me." To put it bluntly, it means that your girlfriend’s parents don’t approve of you at all and don’t agree with your relationship, but they can’t get your girlfriend to be with you, but this doesn’t mean that your girlfriend’s parents don’t object to your being together, so they Of course I object to your girlfriend meeting your parents. Because it makes no sense.
The two of you have been in love for more than three years, and your girlfriend hasn’t been to your house yet. Doesn’t it already explain the problem? Judging from the attitude of the girl's parents: My daughter is willing to fall in love with you and we won't interfere much, but we won't interfere with her marriage. And your family also has selfish motives, that is, because the old man is in poor health and wants to see your girlfriend as soon as possible to settle things.
In this matter, both families have ignored whether the relationship between you and your girlfriend is stable and has long-term considerations.
Every couple’s three-year relationship is different. Some of them may have such deep feelings that they have to be yours, while others may have reached the point where they are nothing more than nothing. But you never said what your current status is from the beginning to the end. If you are just too lazy to change people just because you are used to it or don’t want to step out of your comfort zone, then meeting the parents will be meaningless. Isn’t this deceiving yourself?
And judging from the current situation, it is impossible for your girlfriend's parents to agree. It depends on how you talk to your girlfriend. If she wants, she can buy a gift and visit your parents out of courtesy. What I want to explain is that it is okay to go, but it is not to discuss marriage, and it will not cause any problems when the person arrives.
If she could go without any mental burden, she would probably feel much less stressed, and she wouldn’t need to get her parents’ consent. And you also need to make it clear to your family that relationships are not a thing, and if your girlfriend really comes to visit, don't mention marriage. The key is to see what your girlfriend thinks and how she communicates with her family.
Summary: In fact, emotional matters first consider the relationship between two people, and finally rise to family factors. Therefore, you should first ask your girlfriend’s opinion, andIt’s not about how to convince the woman’s parents.
