Even if two people are often unhappy together, it is definitely not because the other person has no redeeming qualities at all. After all, if they were unhappy from the beginning, they would not choose to be together. And you are still entangled with each other and are often unhappy, and there is no need to continue. This shows that from your subjective point of view, this relationship still has aspects worth maintaining.
But objectively, maybe you really need to cut your losses, or maybe you just need to improve your ability to manage intimate relationships. So now you first try to attribute your unhappiness and identify clearly what causes your unhappiness.
Under normal circumstances, if two people are often unhappy together, there are three possibilities:
One: Unhappiness caused by the other party
Some girls have some bad habits that you can't accept. You didn't notice it before we got together, and it was only exposed after we got together.
Second: Your unhappiness is caused by yourself
People in love always have unrealistic expectations for the other party, but these expectations are often met by the other party. Less than.
If you are unhappy because of this, then the homework you have to do is to manage expectations, manage emotions, self-reflection, and cultivate independence. Otherwise, even if you end this relationship and meet a new relationship, you will You will still fall into similar unhappiness.
The third type: both parties lack the ability to manage relationships
Maybe you and the other person initially left because of attraction. When you get together, after the passion period has passed, problems arise in your running-in, such as poor communication and failure to establish a benign conflict resolution mechanism.
Whenever there are differences, there will be quarrels or cold wars. Over time, hurt and estrangement will accumulate. In the end, the relationship will be riddled with grievances, disappointments and sadness as the background of the relationship.
If your situation falls into this category, you need to provide a more detailed description and specific analysis of the specific problem (if this is your case, you can add , let me help you analyze), but one thing is certain, that is, if you want to maintain the relationship, you will definitely need a period of time to repair the relationship.
And in this process, you not only have to solve the problems of the past, but also learn how to solve problems, optimize the interaction mode, and transform from consuming each other to nourishing each other.
In conclusion, you must give up decisively if you judge that you should give up. If you decide to continue, you can no longer maintain it passively, but give full play to it. Use subjective initiative to manage yourself and this relationship in a good direction. Otherwise, this relationship will only wear you downlife.
