Question: I recently met a girl on a blind date. She doesn’t refuse or take the initiative. She will reply to me when I chat. She can also come out when I ask her out. I never stop getting surprises with various gifts and snacks, but she never takes the initiative to come to chat with me. And you haven’t spent a penny on me, what should I do?
What does it mean if a blind date girl doesn’t take the initiative or refuse?
Answer: If you are willing to give gifts to the blind date girl again and again, she will feel superior and think that you are a licker and there is no need to spend money on you.
Everything is mutual. If you like her very much, give her a gift or two, treat her to a meal and drink milk tea, then just wait and see if she has a grateful heart. Do you know how to reciprocate politely? If she also has a good impression of you, she will attach great importance to your impression of her and return the favor in a sensible and appropriate manner. Then you surprise her again, and she responds to you again.
In the long run, this is a virtuous circle. Both people are paying for each other, full of small touches and surprises. A little romance, a little excitement, a little expectation. Coupled with the gradual understanding and these adjustments, you will become sweeter and sweeter, and your emotions will become deeper and deeper. Of course, this is not enough, you need to experience something together. But that is a story for later and is outside the scope of this discussion.
If you keep spending money on her without taking a breath, she may feel a little confused at first, and then her vanity will cause her to feel that you are trying to catch up, so she will try to control you as soon as you start. It feels like you can't live without her. Then she will naturally accept your kindness with peace of mind. To put it bluntly, you are used to it.
The other is that she is a selfish person herself and is used to enjoying the adulation from the opposite sex. Your small favors are not worth mentioning in her eyes. Even if you do this, she may still want to test you for a while, but at least she doesn't seem to have any plans to establish a relationship with you at the moment.
If you really like her, then you should always dote on this aunt. But you have to think about whether the wife you are looking for only enjoys and does not pay anything.
If you feel confused and tired, then you should stop spending money and see if she will get angry and show her true colors. For example, sarcastically mocking you, or blaming you. Once you see this person clearly, you will feel at ease.
If you hope she can change for you, or want to hear what she thinks of you, then have a frank and face-to-face talk. You tell her: You have seen and felt how I treat you. I am very sincere, but at least you can give me a clear attitude on whether it will work or not. If you are still considering it, do you have any concerns?
The most important thing is, during this period, did you meet more, get to know each other more and communicate more? If it is just a gift-giving and a receiving gift, and there is no other substantive progress, then I can only say that you must also bear part of the responsibility. Because you didn’t understand the situation, I don’t knowI don’t know what Tao is doing, and I don’t know what your purpose is.
