Many people think that it is difficult for boys with poor looks to woo girls, but in fact, looks are not the first criterion for deciding a lover. In a relationship between the sexes, there are three rigid competitivenesses: fun, appearance, and money.
Just because appearance is the more direct among the three, it is often mentioned as a comment. However, good looks here are not just about being handsome. The way you dress, your body, and your manners are all included in the scope of "face."
Indeed, we cannot deny that good-looking people do have an advantage, because we can tell who they are at a glance. More handsome.
But for those of you who are anxious about this, although you look in the mirror now, sometimes you are not satisfied with your appearance.
But if you turn around and look at your roommates, friends, colleagues, and classmates, you will find that everyone is the same, and they are actually fine.
After all, most people are ordinary people, and it is normal to look ordinary.
We see many celebrities on TV. In fact, most of them are packaged and were relatively unknown before their debut.
Therefore, if you want to stand out from the crowd, don’t worry too much about your appearance.
Instead, focus more on the overall temperament. Why do you do this?
There is a very famous effect in psychology, the primacy effect.
It means that the impression formed by the initial exposure to information will have an impact on people's subsequent evaluations and opinions.
This is why people always say that first impression is important.
Let’s review it first. You will find that a middle-aged man in a suit and ties says something to you that seems reasonable, and an unkempt young man says the same thing.
The former will be much more convincing, which is the result of inertial thinking plus the primacy effect.
In fact, the first impression is very important in a relationship, especially for girls.
Because of the primacy effect in psychology, girls will be more attracted to boys who have a good first impression.
Then their probability of becoming boyfriend and girlfriend will be 80% higher than that of ordinary men and women.
People have comprehensive thinking, when people come into contact with parts or fragments of an object.
The brain will subconsciously start to think of related things and associate them.
For example, there are two identical spoons, one is priced at 25 yuan, and the other is priced at 5 yuan.
Without knowing itMost people would think that a spoon priced at RMB 25 would be of better quality than one priced at RMB 5, but this is not necessarily true.
This is also true in the relationship between the sexes. A boy who behaves nicely and dresses neatly will make a good first impression on a girl and even make her willing to have further contact.
The reason is that they subconsciously think that your behavior is related to your education, talent, and ability, while being clean is equated with your life taste and habits.
So friends, if we look really ordinary, it actually doesn’t matter.
We just need to take every day of our lives seriously and dress up carefully.
We will also become competitive in the area of ??"beautiful appearance".
