It is said that boys who are capable, have good conditions, and can talk generally have no worries about not being able to find a girlfriend. So does that mean that boys are incompetent when they can't find a girlfriend? If a boy wants to find a girlfriend, what changes should he make?
Is a boy incompetent if he can't find a girlfriend?
If a boy thinks he is incompetent and useless because he can't find a girlfriend, then he may be really useless. Because as an adult who should have an independent personality, the value of his existence is entirely dependent on whether he can be recognized by girls. I'm not kidding, because there are quite a few boys like this in real life.
And for the sake of social stability, media public opinion often brainwashes boys:
Girls belong to boys all. If a boy can take good care of girls, he is valuable; if he cannot be recognized by girls, he is useless and a loser.
Many boys who are not experienced in the world believe this. This kind of publicity has led to the self-destruction of many boys——
We often hear this story:
When a boy and his girl leave him to find a new love, he He will be depressed all day long. It can range from being confused at the least, to harming yourself and others at the worst. Some boys threaten their ex after falling out of love, which is actually an extreme manifestation of this mentality. The value of their lives rests entirely on the recognition of girls.
When girls abandon them, they naturally lose the meaning of existence and fall into loss, collapse, and madness. This is the evil consequence of placing all the value of life on girls. The embarrassing thing is that when they expressed their sincerity and reluctance to the girl heartbreakingly, the girl ran away even further.
Although many girls, on social media, will praise and sympathize with such boys, thinking that they are "good boys". But when we get along with each other, we look down on them from the bottom of our hearts, and feel their overtures of kindness are boring. Girls want to be with mature and stable boys, not boys who are not independent enough. When a boy leaves a girl, he falls into a breakdown, which convinces the girl that he is a weakling. A weak person cannot protect girls and their children well. That's why, girls don't like them. Nature dictates it.
So, if a boy can’t find a girlfriend and thinks he is useless, then he is really useless. On the one hand, their personality is not independent enough and they are too dependent on others; on the other hand, this mentality will cause them to be rejected by girls, which confirms their view of themselves.
Summary: Whether a boy is incompetent is reflected in many things. It does not mean that he is useless if he cannot find a girlfriend. , having such thoughts is a sign of lack of confidence, so how good should you be at discovering your ownStrengths, advantages, understand yourself, improve yourself, and make yourself confident. If you haven't been able to find a girlfriend, it may be because you have less contact with the opposite sex, or because you have few friends of the opposite sex, so when you have free time, go out and participate in more social activities, expand your circle of friends, and... When friends and relatives introduce you to the opposite sex, don't be too introverted, try to accept it, and have more contact with the opposite sex.
