Some people are always used as spare tires in relationships, so they always feel that they are not kind to others. But many times, being used as a spare tire cannot be entirely attributed to others. If you have a clear mind when facing relationships, point, the probability of avoiding being spared will be greatly reduced. Today we will analyze why some people always become spare tires in relationships.
1. Taking others too seriously when we first met
A thief is talking to you today Say, "I'm going to steal something from your house tonight." How would you react at this time? Normal people would lock the doors and windows of their home and be very alert to everything around them.
Wait until night, this thief comes, he kneels at the door of your house with tears in his eyes, and begs you with tears in his eyes, "Oh, please let me in, please let me in and steal it." ..."
Will you open the door? If he talks nonsense, you will not even open the door for him.
The same goes for falling in love, we have to be heart-stealing thieves in relationships! But you can’t let her know that you are a heart-stealing thief who wants to steal her heart, otherwise you, the heart-stealing thief, will be As a real thief.
So you show that you want to enter her life from the beginning, and her first instinctive reaction is of course to resist.
She runs, you chase, she holds, you lick. To a certain extent, you are no longer on an equal footing. Slowly, people will feel that because you like me, you want me to like you too, and you want me to open my heart to you, then these are all things you should do!
2. Companionship is the longest confession of love, and it is also a long-term spare tire
I want to tell the truth, sometimes, two people The longer we know each other personally, the harder it is to develop into love.
When you first see her and she sees you, you may still have feelings for each other. Who knows, as the years go by, eh, her little heart can no longer beat, but you are still pounding. Jumping.
Sorry, what can I do about this? You can’t move forward, and you can’t retreat. One step forward will lead you to a dragon’s den, and one step back will lead you to an abyss.
You are so confused. Girls don’t know anything, or rather, they pretend not to know.
Because she is used to your friendship, or to you being by her side as a substitute, where can you explain this!
3. Don’t try to impress the other person with confession
Many friends have heard such words when confessing to others:
< p> "I don't want to fall in love yet" "I stillNot sure what I think." "Can you give me a little more time?"The meaning behind these sentences is actually: "I don't want to fall in love with you now" "I'm sure I don’t like you very much.” “I don’t want to promise you, but I still want you to be by my side. ”
Here I want to tell you a bloody fact. Those who can clearly reject you are actually really good. Although they are cruel and do not give you hope, at least they will not consume you. .
But those who are always willing to refuse and welcome, hesitate to speak, try to cover up, play hard to get, and have hard-to-satisfy desires are really annoying!
If you are not careful, you will become this.
So, don’t confess if you have nothing to do, only do it when you are absolutely sure that you two are in love. Confess. Don’t try to impress the other person by confessing.
People’s thresholds are constantly rising. If you achieve 80, the other party will want you to achieve 90. If you achieve 90, the other party will want you to do so. Let you achieve 100, you have been working hard, she has been looking forward to it, you say, are you tired?
So, I have said so much to tell you, grasp the positioning between you. No matter what the relationship is, you should treat them as friends before they are together. Care when you should care, and don’t worry about things you shouldn’t.
If the other person likes you, then don’t treat it as an answer, but as a curious question.
The most important thing is that we ourselves must improve our charm, otherwise the gap between you will be huge in many places. Of course, the possibility of being together is very small. Do we really have to humble ourselves and be a backup for ten thousand years?
