When falling in love, it seems that in many couples, boys take the initiative and girls are passive. Especially in movies and TV dramas, it has become a fixed pattern of love. In such a big environment, this love pattern is really reliable. ?
One-way giving love
In fact, whether it is love or marriage, giving is two-way , maybe the amount of input from both parties is different, but feelings need feedback, and many feelings without feedback are self-inflicted.
Therefore, in real life, many dog lickers do not lick to the end and get everything, but lick to the end and get nothing. Therefore, in love, a love that is excessively one-way giving is not a normal love. model.
It is true that due to the level of financial ability, everyone cannot be equal in love, but in love, if the other party happily accepts your gifts without any active feedback, then you Do you want to think about whether you are being used as a spare tire?
Should a boy take the initiative in dating?
1 . Whether we should take the initiative actually needs to be analyzed based on the actual situation. According to the population structure, there are now more men than women, and women themselves have become a scarce value.
If you don’t take the initiative, other boys will. If you don’t take the initiative, there may be no girls suitable for dating you. From the perspective of supply and demand, boys need to take the initiative, and they need to be very proactive! Otherwise, they can only take the initiative. Find a girlfriend in a group chosen by others.
Ironically, being too proactive with girls will reduce your attractiveness and make it more difficult for men to chase girls. In the long run, boys invest more in chasing girls and are more successful. The rate has not improved at all.
2. From an ideological and cultural point of view, most romance novels, idol dramas, and movies in the post-90s era are based on the model of "men chasing women", which leads to the subconscious belief of most marriageable men and women that, Boys should take the initiative when it comes to dating!
3. According to trend awareness, the influence of non-marriage and singleism has become more and more profound. Lesbian culture is becoming more and more prevalent, which is squeezing the marriage choices of single men. , before you have no choice in falling in love, you can only take the initiative.
The results of taking the initiative to fall in love
Falling in love definitely requires taking the initiative. If you want to play games, you need to install them first. You have to carry a gun on the battlefield... If you don’t look for love yourself, love will not come automatically. If falling in love becomes so easy one day, then naturally falling in love will no longer be popular!
In the early stages of dating , Only when you take the initiative to fall in love can you have the possibility of falling in love. This is a necessary prerequisite.
After confirming the couple’s relationship,If you are still the one taking the initiative, then there will naturally be big problems in the relationship between the two of you. Falling in love is not a matter of one person. If only one party takes the initiative and gives, and the other party just accepts it blindly, the relationship should be It's hard to continue.
